The Price You Pay for Ignoring How Your Mind Works
Could it be something worse for expat founders than remaining stuck in the same personal and business patterns? -Yes, ignore them.
The Rebelliam
7/29/20252 min read
Your mind operates like your body.
Your heart doesn’t ask your brain for permission to beat. Your eyes don’t require instructions to blink. They work independently. Brilliantly.
What you may not know is that you have 20+ "mental assistants” doing the same thing. What is called in the IFS therapy model, as subpersonalities.
Contrary to the body example, your internal mental assistants might be working with conflicting instructions.
I don't care about these "conflicting assistants". What's the matter?
Right now, this could be happening in your mind:
One assistant seeks promotion, while another fears authority figures - Could you become an authority figure one day?
The perfectionist battles the procrastinator - Could you finally move your ass from the couch and get things done?
Your money mindset conflicts with your success drive - Could you stop doing dumb investments and losing money?
Note the implications they have on your daily life.
They are invisible, yet relentless.
These subpersonalities are formed from past experiences — abuse, family patterns, cultural programming. When you recognize them and direct them yourself, you gain the power to conduct your own personal development. But you can’t just get there as the big boss giving a task to anyone inside your mind.
You have to understand, validate, and negotiate their drives.
Exactly as you do in business management.
Who it affects most: High-achievers who know what to do but can’t consistently do it.
3 Ways This Changes Professional Growth
Immediate impact: You become your own guide, supporting your growth day after day.
6-month outlook: You conduct your personal development, not just consume it.
Long-term change: You break patterns with self-directed awareness.
New Rules For Your Personal Development
Instead of depending solely on external guidance:
Start: Learning to recognize and communicate with your internal assistants
Stop: Waiting for therapy sessions to address your patterns
Accelerate: Taking charge of your psychological development with consistency in a safe way
The professionals who develop this self-conducting ability can transform themselves faster than those who remain passive consumers of therapy videos and books.
Get to know your internal assistants and develop your Self-guidance.
Your first step begins here.
I don't promise you a life in the clouds. I do promise you won't regret it.