What If Your Toddler Is a Little Psychopath? The One Mindhack To Save Your Family.

No one is prepared to deal with a cute miny Hannibal Lecter.

The Smith family learned it the hard way. Hopefully, you can protect your family from such a risky situation. Sometimes love is not enough to heal the shattered soul of a child who learned to expect nothing from anyone and to be manipulative to ensure his survival.

Abandoned feelings (caused by real abandonment or not) can turn the most important person in your life into your worst painful nightmare.

The moment Danni stepped into the house everyone noticed something was off.

Danni’s character changed as soon as he was surrounded by a loving close-knit family. The cheerful friendly chubby seven-year-old boy who captivated them at the orphanage vanished after a few days.

The Smiths doubled their affection for little Danni understanding he never lived in a warm family. They firmly believed that “there is nothing Love cannot change”. So they put more love and compassion at stake. But Danni redoubled his misbehavior and got out of control. In their attempt to get emotionally close to the boy, they triggered the wound full of hatred, anger, and pain inside the child.

Danni’s behavior was bordering on evil. Then Mr. Smith decided to set strict limits at home imposing order and authority.

But Danni exploded.

• One morning Danni’s siblings didn’t get out of their beds.

  Mrs. Smith discovered both boys were terrified and had wet their beds because Danni threatened them during the night putting a pair of scissors around their necks and telling them “If they didn’t do what he wanted he would kill them.”

• He was discovered setting fires on the sneak in the neighborhood.

  His intention wasn’t to cause any damage, just to clear the neighborhood of ugly dry bushes.

• He tried to drown a neighbor’s daughter in their swimming pool.

  He claimed it was a joke, but the look of Horror on the children’s faces and the bluish color on the girl’s lips said otherwise.

• The congregation’s minister suffered 5.000 dollars worth of damage to his home.

  The Smiths sought help in the spiritual realm and the minister practiced an exorcism to Danni. He hated the experience.

The worst was up to come.

No words can describe the look on Mr. and Mrs. Smith’s faces: anger, fear, pain, and sadness, all at once when the therapist told them Danni confessed he had killed Jasper (Mr. Smith’s cat). ”I did it to get revenge for the exorcism thing”, said the boy calmly while looking straight into the eyes of the therapist. He also mentioned he first killed his cat and the neighbor’s cat a few days earlier to not raise any suspicions about him.

“You need to get Danni out of your home immediately. You are all in danger!”

-Said the therapist.-

The child was diagnosed with a severe case of ASPD (Antisocial Personality Disorder). Yes, like Hannibal Lecter. And over a week later the child was moved to a foster house. Deeply annoyed, he left them one last threat before leaving, “Be careful, because one night you may wake up with your house on fire”.

“These children have been robbed of their humanity. Their hearts beat, but they are dead inside. Their eyes are dull and lifeless.” State Ken Magid and Carole A. McKelvey in their book “High Risk, Children Without Conscience”.

Is it too late for you?

Is important to remark on how easy is to misinterpret the patterns of children with ASPD in the early stages.

In the mind, nothing is black or white. It's more a matter of intensity like the volume of the music. This is the advantage and the difficulty at the same time that makes professional attention needed.

Nevertheless, here are 3 patterns you may want to keep in mind:

• They don't emotionally bond. They could, but very superficially, and they may show some logical empathy by understanding what you feel, but they don't care.

• Punishments do not work. Instead, they develop a defiant attitude with the caregiver “to see who can endure the longest” by doing things that drive their parents nuts.

• Sooner or later they will violently defy their parents. They haven't an original affection for their caregivers therefore those represent only a limiting and castrating agent. A stone in their way.

What can you do?

Psychology and criminology Dr. Vicente Garido explained the key resides in affection and firmness.

When the child misbehaves:

1. The situation is addressed.

2. The parent and child talk about it.

3. Consequences are assumed.

Subconsciously the child understands his parents care and structures his life making decisions for his well-being. Setting clear limits on what is acceptable behavior and respecting them helps the child to develop a sense of belonging. This opens the door to developing bonding between caregiver and child. Although this process takes time and commitment.

Dr. Garrido also suggests a mind-hacking method every kid should experience. Especially the ones with behavior and emotional bonding issues.

Put the child in situations where he has to make an effort and the result improves the lives of others, and the others thank him for it (flattering him for his power to make their lives better) repeatedly. In this way, his self-image and the sense of gratification by doing good will be connected.

If none of this works. Seek professional help before you wake up with your house on fire.

A hug, Liam.